What is attachment and why does it matter? -- Can attachment patterns change? -- What is "good enough" care, and what does it do? -- Shaping behaviour -- Effects of parenting on the infant's brain -- Through the generations -- Changing patterns : the tug of war of attachment -- Arousal revisited -- The calm and the storm -- Diagnoses -- Understanding thoughts, feelings and behaviours -- Parenting with pace -- Layers -- Shame and changing the norm -- Roles and belonging -- Stories -- Time holes and triggers -- Patterns that suck us in -- Heroes.